What is the defferent between real love and false love and how to deffer between them?

Real love:


An unselfish caring about the interests of the other person.


Starts slowly, perhaps taking months or years.


You are attracted by the other person's total personality and qualities.


It makes you a better person.


You view them realistically, seeing their faults, yet loving them anyway.


You have disagreements, but can talk them out and settle them.


You want to give and share with them.





False love (infatuation):


Is selfish.


Starts fast.


You are impressed with their physical appearance.


Has a destructive, disorganizing effect.


Is unrealistic. The other person seems perfect. You ignore doubts about personality flaws.


Arguments are frequent and never really get settled.


The emphasis is on taking or getting, especially in satisfying sexual urges.What is the defferent between real love and false love and how to deffer between them?
Real love is a dime a dozen. It's cheap. My ex and I had real love for each other, and we still divorced after 23 years. There is so much more than just love; trust, respect, honor, communication, sexual chemistry, having common interests and ideas, having the same goals and planned life. My ex and I had all this. Good enough to make a marriage work.





It gets more complicated, but after the above is covered you should be on the same wave length- thinking the same and being able to finish each others sentences. Few couples get the last part- being one whole in spirit, true soul-mates. My fiance and I are at this level.





My ex's chemistry changed and she had several affairs- there went the trust, honor, respect and even though we still had real love for each other, our marriage.What is the defferent between real love and false love and how to deffer between them?
';false love';--- I'm guessing here you mean LUST.





Real love --- I guessing you mean something that will last.





If we agree on these two, then





Real Love... i.e., a successful relationship/marriage has four things, I think:


Respect, Admiration, Passion and Trust, with a whole lot of lovies each of you have for the other.





Hopefully you have no big deal breakers in this.... both want jobs, both want children, both wish to stay or move to a new place, both like to spend money for about the same things, both have shared interests, and both come from similar backgrounds.





That's a lot, isn't it? (no wonder half of all marriages fail)





There are for sure some real deal breakers in here... one wants children, and one does not... one likes drugs and alcohol, and the other not. One is super religious, the other can't stand the stuff. You get the idea. And along with one of these deal breakers is physical and/or mental abuse.





Lust? Easy. It has none of those four items, and we can compare it to a one night stand, or a 3 month fling, in which neither is making any commitment, and neither intends to be there for very long. And maybe both are staying until something better comes along





The hurt comes when one does fall in love, and does care, and does begin to have Admiration, Respect, Passion and Trust, and the other simply doesn't move much past lust and drops the relationship.





Helpful?
to love, requires a tremendous amount of energy. being 'in'; love requires even more. both are felt on the mental, physical, emotional, and spiritual level. this is why when you love and or are in love whatever that person does or says impacts you. false love is equal to infatuation.
you mean ;love and lust? lust eventually dies down and is often along the lines of sex and fantacy, real love i guess is what you feel in your heart that tug when you see him/her or that missing feeling when they not there, its feeling you care and are hurt when they are hurt etc
you know its real love when the other person makes sacrifices for you. False when they don't even bother.
its like saying whats the difference between real c cups and implants.


i depends on what YOU'RE after at the time.
false love is an extra marital affair, take the sex away and you have nothing.
one lasts forever , other till seeing another one
false love sounds like and oxymoron
I don't know what false love is.

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