';if you don't love yourself, how can you expect others to love you?'; - false?

i don't see the logic in this, and find it false, and so far, no reasoning has changed my mind, but i'm very open minded, and want to see if there's something i'm missing here.


so, what do you think? is this true, false? why?';if you don't love yourself, how can you expect others to love you?'; - false?
I half agree and half disagree with this statement. I believe the idea that someone doesn't ';love'; themselves ludicrous. If I identify myself as a knight of the round table, and I break the basic tenets of that order, I may ';hate myself for what I have done'; but what this really means is I love my ideal self (the knight of the round table) and hate myself (the person, or body) for not living up to it. Well this person LOVES themself (the knight of the round table) and just hates an ASPECT of themselves. Nobody actually HATES themselves because hate has to have a motivator and that ideal IS the self to the self-hater.





If I am portraying joy, success and fun, people will be drawn to me. If I am presenting misery, anger and dissatisfaction, nobody wants to bother with me. THIS is what is meant by ';loving yourself'; in the adage. But as Groucho Marx said, ';Sincerity is the most important thing, if you can fake that you can do anything.';





So are people drawn to those who love life? YES. Does that constitute self-love? Not necessarily. It can be faked.';if you don't love yourself, how can you expect others to love you?'; - false?
This may not be an absolute, but it most definitely is one of those parts of life where it seems like the more you love yourself, the more others might love you. It could be that by increasing the amount that you love yourself, you have opened yourself up to be more able to receive love from others. It could also be that the more you love yourself, the more you are likely to put loving attention on other people, and they will love you more in return. One of the problems with that quote is the use of the word ';expect.'; If you ';expect'; others to love you, you may not get that love that you are expecting in return. Love is one of those things that is freely given and received; if love is predicated on expectations and entitlements and so on, that's love with conditions attached to the relationship, and it's an entirely different experience from unconditional love. Best wishes to you!
True. I think that in life ppl arent always going to treat u the way u want to be treated and if u care about yourself u wont allow them to treat you poorly. Thats why they say if u dont love yourself, how can u expect others to love you....ppl are only going to treat u the way u let them. If u let them walk all over u then u dont have much respect or love for yourself to let someone who doesnt care about u treat u like u dont deserve to be treated. Its all about self value. if u value yourself then ppl will see that and treat u accordingly.
';Whenever Richard Cory went down town,


We people on the pavement looked at him:


He was a gentleman from sole to crown,


Clean favored, and imperially slim.





And he was always quietly arrayed,


And he was always human when he talked;


But still he fluttered pulses when he said,


';Good-morning,'; and he glittered when he walked.





And he was rich - yes, richer than a king -


And admirably schooled in every grace;


In fine we thought that he was everything


To make us wish that we were in his place.





So on we worked, and waited for the light,


And went without the meat, and cursed the bread;


And Richard Cory, one calm summer night,


Went home and put a bullet through his head.';





-- Edwin Arlington Robinson
Are you saying that you don't understand it or that it doesn't make sense? I can understand the logic, but I disagree with the premise. I can love someone who doesn't love themselves. I just can't understand why someone would choose not to love themself.





Cheers!
i think its true


its the same for


';if you don't trust yourself you can't trust anyone else';


i don't think you can truly love someone if you don't like who you are


insecurities will get in the way
Well, in my experience, I have found that others's love for me has helped to appreciate myself and recognise the facets of my personality which I wasn't even aware of...It was kind of enlightening experience!
Because neither love nor loving is reasonable.
...agree, with you, i really don't care for others and i got what i want...
I don't think i'm a lovable person, yet my wife loves me and me her. Go figure.
if you dont love your self how can you except love in your life. i think thats what it means